Saturday, 26 July 2014

Ceilings are Boring




(6 Feb ’11)
            My first tryst with the ceiling was about three months ago when my slipped disc or herniated disc first presented its symptoms: back pain and more back pain. There must have been a spot just above my tail bone, called L-4 or something by the doctors, weakened by years of abuse: picking up a cycle with a flat tyre, buckets of water when the taps ran dry, pushing suitcases and trunks in and out of narrow train doors, dragging furniture and fridges to clean corners of floors, sitting long hours with books on lap, running to catch buses, typing articles to not miss deadlines, and more. The last straw (would the present generation know what a real straw is? Most will know it’s something to drink from) was when I tried helping someone get up after a surgery. Snap. I felt it. Like someone stabbing me in the back, so sharp, so sudden, so shocking was the pain. It will go away, I told myself. It didn’t. I could bear it, brave me, I thought. One day, two days later, whilst crossing the road, the sharp pain returned. I managed to dodge the traffic, but had got a fright. Promptly, I visited the doctor, who said, “I want you in bed.” Off I was packed, with a sick-leave chit in hand, home. Alone at the time, I couldn’t get up to answer the ringing phone…. Blessed are mobiles, they’re at hand.  23 hours of bed rest meant I was allowed to use the loo and feed myself. Rest of the time, I was sleeping. As in lying down, not as in fast asleep. That’s when I noticed how poor the workmanship was: the walls were full of bumps and depressions. Plastering is so important to the looks of a room. The lights were high up on the wall, no scope for reading.   I could hear the traffic below and kept guessing what might be happening down on the road. Friends pitched in with food. Love my friends.
            A week later, better already, I joined work. It was too early. The body didn’t like it at all. Another muscular spasm, more pain, and back I was on the mattress. This time, I made sure I wasn’t brave at all. The putta on my abdomen stayed on until way after the doctor said No Need.
            Still, two months down the line, I’d ignored the hints of pain in my knee and hip on one side. It wasn’t much and there was no point fussing over something that wasn’t hampering my work. So I carried on at a frenzied pace. There was an audit, an inspection coming up, it was important, so I was on my feet, doing this, that and the other. One day, late evening, as I walked home, I couldn’t take the steps, so painful was the leg. By the time I reached home…. Just a couple of minutes it took, the pain was unbearable even whilst I rested. So painful, it felt cold,  and I was shivering. This was not normal, and I dragged myself out and to the hospital where the doc on duty said: I want you in bed. This inappropriate sentence has no romantic hints in it, I’d learnt. It  means: you’re in medical trouble.
            For the second time in three months, I was back inside an MRI, pumped with strong painkillers that gave me the false impression that I was perfectly all right. The Spine Doc told me: nothing works like a bed rest: 23 hrs flat on back into 22 days. Back I went to my good friend, the ceiling. Family, friends, neighbours, facebookers have pitched in with advice. We’re Indians, no, we have to give advice: sleep on a wooden plank, sleep on a soft mattress, take a pillow, throw that pillow away, use reiki, pranic healing helps, herbal tea a must, those pain—killers work like magic, don’t touch allopathic pills, pray, even God can’t help you through this, lie down still, get up and get going, wear a belt, belts are mere reminders of your condition nothing more. About whiling away those hours: pray (seems to be  a fave pastime with those who need to while away time, meditate (another fave with the praying types), think of nice things, think of how to take revenge on enemies, this is a good opportunity to cook up crazy ideas, plan your future…. Too old for that? Then dwell on the past. So on and so forth. I can’t watch tv because of the angle involved. Can’t read books because neck and eyes hurt. Can’t listen to music because it irritates others at home. Can’t use the headphones because ears get tired…. Yes, they do. It’s taught me one lesson, though. We can empathize with those who can’t walk or see because we can mimic that disability by restricting our movements or tying a cloth to our eyes. But we can’t ever know what a deaf person feels like because we can’t, as try we might, feel what s/he feels. Truly, it’s a disability that is difficult to comprehend.
            The boring ceiling has taught me that one great lesson. And also, that health indeed is wealth, that I’m blessed to be privileged to  enjoy a climate of freedom so many people don’t… that food, an appetite and a good digestion contributes so much to well being, that we need care-givers other than doctors to help us back to health. Even jokers who say: repeat so and so’s name a zillion times and  all will be well contribute to wellness in some way. They mean well. And that’s what a patient clings to when boring ceilings are to be encountered. @@@@@

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